Early in my career, my boss recommended that I meet regularly with each of my direct reports. In other words, I should do a one-on-one meeting with my team. He knew it would both improve their productivity and improve my relationship and influence with my team members.
I thought it was a great idea! And since I wanted the time to be as productive as possible, I spent weeks trying to figure out how to structure the meetings and when to schedule them.
Looking back – I wasted a lot of valuable time trying to set up and agenda for the “perfect” meeting. Which was a futile effort from the outset – because I was going to be part of the meeting – and I’m far from perfect!
So I did the one thing that I knew would get me going. I asked my assistant to put the One-on-One Meeting on my calendar. She scheduled them so I would have two weeks to get ready for my first meeting. So, here’s what I did…
Purpose
I spent some time thinking about my purpose for the meetings. I also envisioned what my team members would like to accomplish in the meetings and what they would value most about our time together. Then I wrote it out –
To provide a structured time to coach my team members through the four components of effective leadership (life planning, business vision, business planning, and priority management) and to fulfill one of my core convictions – people are valuable and are worth developing.
Regular time
Next, I scheduled biweekly, 30 minute appointments for each of my direct reports. I started out biweekly because I wanted to be sure that the meetings wouldn’t be too cumbersome by occurring too often without enough content.
Weekly or monthly meetings may work better for you and your team. In fact, my assistant and I meet twice a week for 30 minutes each time. Although we work together closely, the regularly scheduled appointments are very focused and provide a time to slow down and address top priority functions and projects.
Be prepared
Preparation is the key to an effective meeting!
The more time I spend preparing, the more effective the meeting is for both of us. I spend approximately the same amount of time preparing for each meeting as I do in the meeting itself.
My Guide and Template prompt me to select specific questions prior to each meeting. (I’ll share my template with you in a few seconds.) I also review notes from our previous meeting and the list of projects for the individual. This provides a basic outline for the meeting. So I feel a lot better going in.
Focus
A critical component of meeting preparation is location. Pick a place where you can relax, focus, and engage. This may be your office, their office, a conference room, a cafe’ nearby, or the local coffee shop.
For most of my meetings, I prefer to use an office or meeting room because we have access to tools for coaching when needed.
Wherever you land, turn off the mobile phones, set the office phone to do-not-disturb, clear the desk and table, let the receptionist and your team know that you are not to be interrupted. Eliminate as many distractions as possible. This will prepare you for what’s next…
Listen
The guide and template contain scores of questions to make it easy for you to prepare – personal questions, project questions, resource questions, follow-up and feedback questions. This is by design – questions prepare me to listen!
And we need to listen to our teams far more than we do! Bill Greer, President of Milligan College, once said to me, If you want to help people, listen as long as you possibly can before responding.
When you ask your team more questions than you make demands, you’ll be more loved & respected. (Ben Reed)
During the One-on-one Meeting
Just as my preparation improves the meeting, when my team members are well-prepared, we both get a lot more accomplished in the meetings.
I have asked each of my team members to use an agenda based on 6 simple items to help them prepare for each meeting. My guide and template includes this Agenda Form for you to give to your team members to help them prepare for your next meeting.
When I began this process with my team, I saw remarkable improvements in each individual. And I improved! Our meetings weren’t perfect, but they became far more effective than they were previously.
Use a One-on-one Meeting Template
For months, I struggled to stay motivated to continue being intentional about the meetings. The meetings were awkward at times. There were times I wasn’t prepared. My team members came unprepared.
There’s no doubt you will face similar challenges. And that’s ok. You don’t have to have it all figured out right now. Just start with a simple plan for the meeting that prepares you to listen.
To help me prepare for one-on-one meetings, I developed the One-on-One Meeting Template and Guide.
It took months of tweaking to finally get my agenda template into a format that was comfortable for me. You can save all that time and download my simple guide and template now by submitting the form below. When you do, I will email you the downloadable guide and meeting template immediately.
This guide has become the most searched item on my site from internet search engines and has been downloaded tens of thousands of times.
Click Here to Download the One-on-One Meeting Template and Guide now.
What people are saying
WOW! Super helpful! Great guidance and practical strategies. As someone who participates in a weekly meeting with my supervisor, this will be a powerful tool to help me guide the meeting better from my side of the desk. Chad Miller, Finance Manager
I like the structure that the template provides – meet at a regular time and 30 minutes maximum. This requires both parties to prepare for the meeting and keeps it from being a time waster. I love the challenge to prepare to listen and follow-up after the meeting. Todd Linder, Executive Director
The perfect study guide before you have a meeting with your boss. You’ll be prepared for anything! Lee Tomlin, Associate Director, BBFI
I really like the meeting agenda for team members that you provide as a part of the guide and template. And love the idea of more frequent one-on-one meetings, especially for the purpose of assessing work flow. TJ Ward, Lead Pastor
I love the list of specific questions in each area. As a manager, this template could help me tremendously make better use of my meeting planning time because I have somewhere to start instead of starting from scratch. Dennis Scheidt, University Director
The guide is extremely helpful – both for leaders to use to prepare for one-on-one meetings, and for team members to use when their boss hasn’t provided an agenda to help them prepare for a One-on-One Meeting. Paul O’Rear, Author
A great guide! I loved the sample questions! Lindsey Hartz, Executive Assistant
I like the three categories that make up the guide and template. They’re valuable principles to follow for a good meeting. And I really like the action plan portion. Great tool! Matthew Heavener, Director of Development
Everything in this guide is right-on. It should be required reading for new college graduates about to enter the job market! Brian Parks, Software Developer
I particularly found the section on listening important. In far too many settings the leader is a poor listener. Yet the ability to listen well is the mark of the most respected leaders. I love your structured plan for the meetings – a terrific tool! And immediate follow-up is brilliant – it is another area where too many in leadership fall short. Tammy Condray, College Professor
Excellent! People want to be part of something that’s worthwhile. And it’s our job as leaders to help them feel worthy and valued in their role. It’s very helpful to have a template to use as a guide to get started. Curtis Barrett, Non-profit Leader
Click Here to Download the One-on-One Meeting Template and Guide now.
Once you download the guide and template and try it out, shoot me an email and let me know how it works for you. I’d love to hear how you are using it it improve your meetings with your team.
JM says
Michael-
I purchased the one on one template but never received the link to download it…. I’ve contacted you a few times with no reply, please help.
pes says
Hi Michael. I downloaded and paid for the template but did not receive an email with the download. Any help would be appreciated.
Hoi says
Hi Michael, I just puchased a copy of the template via the download button. I did not get redirect to a download page nor got a download link in my email. How to get the download link? My question was also since your system does not have my email on file, then how does your system know where to email the download link? Please advise.
Daniel says
Hey Michael ,,,i have bought your One to one by pay pal…dont know how to download it though? Please help!
I have clicked the link but it doesn’t take me to a place to download it.
Michael Nichols says
Sorry you had trouble, Daniel. We emailed you detailed instructions this morning. Let us know if you have any additional trouble. Enjoy your day.
IAMSynt says
Just downloaded it. Cannot wait to share it with a team that is working on a youth mentorship program. Think that it will be very valuable. Thanks.
Michael Nichols says
Great to hear. Let me know how it works for you.
leetomlin says
Michael, this is great!
I am excited to use this in meeting with my own leadership team. But also, while the “bosses” are bringing me in frequent one on one meetings, I will use this to make sure that I am prepared with my own questions and answers! It is a great guideline from both angles. Thanks!
Michael Nichols says
Great feedback, Lee. I’m glad it’s a useful tool. I appreciate your thoughtful response. Hope you are doing well.
Robert Prince says
Hi Michael, You mention the Coach Builder Partner Edition in your post, but the link dead-ends somewhere else. I Googled it real quickly but didn’t really come up with much, can you give any more information on that? Thanks,
Michael Nichols says
This product is no longer available and Building Champions updated their site this week. You may wish to contact BC to see what other software products they recommend.
Roshni says
Hey Michael ,,,i have bought your One to one by pay pal…dont know how to download it though? Please help!
Michael Nichols says
You will receive an email almost immediately with a download link. Let me know how it works for you. Would love your feedback.
Anele says
HI Micheal, I’m Anele from Tecino – a South African based architecture and corporate interior design firm. I will go through this exercise with my management team and revert back to you for feedback.
Michael Nichols says
Thanks for stopping by and using the template with your team! Let me know how it goes!
Tom Dixon says
Just purchased your template, Michael. Looks like a great resource. I recently started doing one-on-ones with my team (something I had been neglecting) and I think this will be a big help.
Michael Nichols says
That’s great, Tom. Once you use it for a few meetings, let me know how I can serve you.
Caleb says
Michael, thanks! This looks like a good tool that I can use. I started having regular one on one meetings with my team this year in replace of their regular written reports. The reality was that they were just writing the reports just to get them out of the way and I was barely reading them. I found that if I did the meetings right they were much more productive than the written reports.
Michael Nichols says
Great – I’m thrilled the template will help you and I agree – one on one meetings done right can only help you both grow and accomplish more.
Mark Horstman says
Michael-
I’m really disappointed to see our work – the Manager Tools One on One form – devoid of any mention of our copyright, on your site, being presented as yours. Would you please contact me so we can discuss either licensing or removal?
Thank you,
Mark Horstman
Co-Founder, Manager Tools
Obai says
Hello Michael, you don’t know how this article is informative and helpful to me. I would like to thank you for great thoughts. I believe this kind of articles must be read from time to time. Thanks again.
Michael Nichols says
Thanks Obai. I appreciate your encouragement.
Wade A Harris says
This is good stuff! Thanks for sharing I picked up the book Becoming a Coaching Leader. Thanks for your insight today!
Michael Nichols says
That’s great. I enjoyed our conversation as well. Looking forward to getting an update soon.
Michael Nichols says
That’s great. I enjoyed our conversation as well. Looking forward to getting an update soon.
Michael Nichols says
That’s great. I enjoyed our conversation as well. Looking forward to getting an update soon.